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Faster Than Others” ≠ Premature Ejaculation: Breaking Common Myths in Singapore

Posted on by Singapore Aphrodisiac

Premature ejaculation (PE) is often self-diagnosed based on misleading comparisons or cultural stereotypes. In Singapore’s performance-driven society, many men mistakenly label themselves with PE simply because they ejaculate faster than peers or porn actors. This article debunks myths using medical criteria and local insights to restore confidence.
早泄（PE）常因错误比较或文化偏见被自我误诊。在新加坡注重效率的社会中，许多男性仅因射精快于同伴或成人片演员而错误自判早泄。本文结合医学标准与本地视角，破除迷思，重拾信心。

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Medical Definition vs. Social Myths 医学定义 vs 社会迷思

1. ISSM Clinical Criteria 国际性医学学会（ISSM）标准

True PE requires all three conditions:
确诊早泄需满足全部三项标准：

  1. Ejaculation ≤1 minute (lifelong) or ≤3 minutes (acquired) post-penetration.
    插入后≤1分钟（原发性）或≤3分钟（继发性）。
  2. Inability to delay ejaculation in ≥75% of attempts.
    无法自主延迟射精（≥75%性行为中）。
  3. Significant distress affecting relationships or mental health.
    显著心理困扰（影响关系或心理健康）。

Singapore Context 本地现实
A 2024 SingHealth study found 62% of self-diagnosed PE cases did NOT meet ISSM criteria.
SingHealth 2024年研究显示，62%自认早泄的男性不符合ISSM标准。

2. Misleading Comparisons 误导性对比

Myth 1: “My friend lasts 30 minutes, so my 5 minutes must be PE.”
迷思1：“朋友能持续30分钟，所以我5分钟肯定是早泄。”
Truth: Penetration duration varies widely. The global average is 5-7 minutes, with only 10% exceeding 10 minutes.
事实：性交时长差异极大。全球平均5-7分钟，仅10%超过10分钟。

Myth 2: “Porn actors last hours—that’s the norm.”
迷思2：“成人片演员能持续数小时，这才是正常。”
Truth: Porn uses editing, drugs, and staged scenarios. Comparing to it is like expecting Olympic-level fitness from casual joggers.
事实：成人片通过剪辑、药物及剧本营造效果。与其对比，如同要求业余跑者具备奥运选手体能。

Cultural Pitfalls in Singapore 新加坡文化陷阱

1. “Kiasu” Mentality 怕输心理

The local tendency to overachieve extends to bedroom performance, creating unrealistic expectations.
本地“怕输”心态延伸至性表现，催生不切实际的期望。

Case Study 典型案例
A 28-year-old banker felt “inferior” after hearing colleagues brag about 30-minute stamina—later discovering they counted foreplay time.
28岁银行职员因同事吹嘘“30分钟耐力”自觉“逊色”，后得知对方将前戏时间计入。

2. Conservative Education 保守性教育

Limited sex education leads to reliance on unreliable sources:
性教育不足导致依赖错误信息源：

  • 41% of Singaporean men learn about sex from porn (IMH 2023).
    41%新加坡男性性知识来自成人片（心理卫生学院，2023）。
  • 29% believe PE is purely genetic and untreatable.
    29%认为早泄纯属遗传且无法治疗。

How to Self-Assess Accurately? 如何科学自测？

Use this Singapore-specific checklist:
新加坡适用自测清单：

  1. Timing: Use a stopwatch (not mental counting) for 3 attempts.
    计时：用秒表（非默数）测量3次性行为。
  2. Control Test: Try the “squeeze technique” – if delaying 30+ seconds, likely not PE.
    控制力测试：尝试“挤压法”——若能延迟30秒以上，可能非早泄。
  3. Distress Scale: Rate anxiety on 0-10 (≥7 indicates clinical concern).
    困扰指数：焦虑感0-10分（≥7分需关注）。

Red Flags for Real PE 真早泄预警信号

  • Ejaculation before penetration in >50% attempts.

    50%性行为未插入即射精。

  • Avoiding all intimacy for ≥3 months due to fear.
    因恐惧回避性接触≥3个月。

Healthy Alternatives to Comparison 替代比较的健康心态

1. Focus on Mutual Satisfaction 关注双方满意度

A KK Hospital survey found 89% of Singaporean women prioritize emotional connection over duration.
竹脚妇幼医院调查显示，89%新加坡女性重视情感联结而非时长。

Action Step 行动建议
Ask your partner: “What makes you feel loved?” instead of “Was I fast?”
询问伴侣：“什么让你感到被爱？”而非“我是不是太快？”

2. Redefine “Performance” 重新定义“性表现”

  • Quality > Quantity: 15 minutes of attentive intimacy beats 30 minutes of mechanical thrusting.
    质量＞数量：15分钟专注亲密优于30分钟机械运动。
  • Expand Intimacy: Non-penetrative acts like massage or showering together.
    拓展亲密形式：共浴、按摩等非插入式亲密。

When to Seek Help? 何时该求助？

Consult a doctor if:
出现以下情况请就医：

  • Ejaculation ≤1 minute + distress for ≥6 months.
    持续≥6个月的≤1分钟射精+心理困扰。
  • Sudden onset after years of normal function (may indicate diabetes/prostatitis).
    多年正常后突发早泄（可能提示糖尿病/前列腺炎）。

Singapore Resources 本地资源

  • Public: Polyclinics → Referral to SGH Urology.
    公立：综合诊疗所→转介至新加坡中央医院泌尿科。
  • Private: Discrete PE clinics like DTAP Robertson.
    私立：DTAP Robertson等隐私友好诊所。

Conclusion: Your Normal is Valid
总结：你的“正常”独一无二
PE is defined by personal distress, not others’ stopwatches. Singaporean men deserve accurate information—not anxiety from myths. Celebrate what works for you and your partner, and seek science-backed care only when truly needed.
早泄定义源于个人困扰，而非他人计时。新加坡男性应获取科学信息，而非焦虑于迷思。请拥抱适合您与伴侣的节奏，仅在必要时寻求专业帮助。